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"Living for Me" daily tips

Posted on Tuesday, December 15, 2015

This is the time of the year when everyone worries about fitness and wellbeing. Possibly this stems from guilt from or fear of over indulging during the holidays and neglecting your commitment to self care.
Please don't do that to yourselves and remember that we all deserve to enjoy every moment of every day to the fullest.
Over the years I continue however to find solutions to the daily concerns we face and negative things we do that then dampen our spirit and instill the need for self criticism guilt.

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Marjolein's Rules for Lighter Living

Posted on Monday, August 19, 2013

There is a question I ask myself often when faced with a choice: Is what I am about to do, say or think going to add peace and harmony to my life or will it create conflict and pain? It doesn't take much imagination to guess which direction I tend to take. read more

Staying motivated even when another 40 minutes in dreamland beckons!

Posted on Thursday, August 1, 2013

Most of us think of exercising with dread and exasperation knowing that we “should” engage but filled with a million excuses, the days pass by and the guilt sets in and vitality wanes.


Having my own AeroPilates machine at home has made my fitness routine an easy and convenient daily part of my life but these few tips may help to motivate you and keep you on track to achieve your health and wellness goals. 


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The mood enhancing benefits of pure Essential Oils

Posted on Sunday, June 23, 2013

One of my most exciting discoveries, in recent years, has been that aromatherapy actually alters one's physical, mental and emotional state. I diffuse oils and light candles throughout my home, every day, and after years of research have found the best ways to do so.

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Marjolein's Guided Meditation

Posted on Sunday, May 26, 2013

For so many years I have used guided visualization and meditation as a way to get out of my head and into a more heartfelt and intuitive place. There is nothing more relaxing than listening to a soothing voice take you to an unfamiliar and beautiful place where you get to use your imagination and conjure up smells, sights, sounds and feelings that you normally believe are only possible in your dreams. Some guided meditations lead you to ask questions  which you have been loathe to answer but suddenly because you are more connected with your intuitive side, you quickly hear a perfect solution.

In our family we use the ease of guided visualization to go to sleep at night and both of my children, Louis and Sky, have been taught to visit their very special "place in nature" when ever they need a reprieve from  their environment or when they need to release stress, fears, worries and concerns and especially when they are having trouble going to sleep. read more

Pick a card to focus your thoughts, uplift your spirit and calm your body

Posted on Friday, March 1, 2013

Every day for many years I have taken a few minutes to pick a card from one of my many decks. I read the message and take it to heart, trusting that everything that happens to me that day may be understood differently when the message is applied.

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Emotional Health is as Important as Physical Health

Posted on Friday, February 22, 2013

We often associate wellness with physical fitness, good nutrition and the ability to manage stress, but there is another aspect to feeling good that comes from living with purpose. Here are a dozen helpful hints to help you face your life with renewed joy and happiness.

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It is in Giving that we feed ourselves

Posted on Tuesday, February 12, 2013

A holy man was having a conversation with the Lord one day and said. "Lord, I would like to know what Heaven and Hell are like". read more

The Spiritual Laws of Pilates

Posted on Friday, January 4, 2013

I read Deepak Chopra's book "the seven laws of success and immediately saw the metaphor for each law as it pertained to my Pilates body.
Here is my interpretation of how to approach your Pilates fitness routine with a spiritual nurturing that will make the experience more profound and the benefits more intense. read more

What do we do when our heart says yes but our mind says no?

Posted on Thursday, September 13, 2012

I am often asked whether I believe in specific divination tools or whether I engage in the use of psychic readings to predict the future.

While I try to make it a daily discipline to live in the present moment and not to dwell on either the past or predict or worry about the future and I try mostly to perfect the skill that allows me to listen and trust my intuition, there are most definitely times when I use a tool to help confirm what I already believe.

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Loss Makes Room for Love

Posted on Thursday, July 26, 2012

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Living in Harmony With Your Surroundings: The Art of Feng Shui

Posted on Friday, June 1, 2012

Feng Shui, practiced by the Chinese for thousands of years, is the system of arranging your environment to allow energy to flow freely. Chinese superstition believes that it is the root of health, wealth, good fortune and happiness. read more

Spring's connection to Spirit

Posted on Tuesday, February 22, 2011

This prayer continues to be my reminder that I am so small, yet so integral a part of all that is universally large. With the advent of Spring, it is a wonderful time to renew that connection and find the time to practice something that reminds you too, that you are one with Spirit. read more

Ten People Every Girl Needs In Her Life

Posted on Wednesday, December 8, 2010

Just for fun, I've made a list of ten people every woman should have in her life to keep her on course, make her feel loved and motivate her to enjoy life. They are not in any particular order and range from the practical to the fantastical. Enjoy!

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Choose the Miracle

Posted on Sunday, November 7, 2010

Almost every evening I get lulled to sleep by the soothing voice and healing words of Deepak Chopra. His 'Soul of Healing Meditations' CD takes you through a series of lessons from relaxation to gratitude and healing.

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Posted on Tuesday, September 21, 2010

This is a great meditation I found in the book "Spiritual Abundance" written by David Stuart Alexander.

Take 5 minutes out of your day, find a quiet place and repeat this meditation making sure to center yourself with some deep breathing.

Relax and Enjoy.

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Success is a mystery

Posted on Thursday, July 29, 2010

I am always fascinated by what makes one person more successful than another. Even in the same family where siblings are raised with the identical philosophical parenting, some are more successful than others. Yesterday I sat on the plane, next to a delightful woman who spoke about her twin girls. Both went to the same school and yet she was worried about the one who had no motivation, lacked self esteem and seemed afraid to try. The other twin was outgoing, confident and on her way to becoming a successful adult. It must be a mysterious combination of genetics, intelligence, environment, experience and influence but as a parent how do we give our children the maximum amount of opportunity for complete self actualization when we are unsure what it is, even for ourselves? read more

It's Never Too Late To Be All You Can Possibly Be

Posted on Thursday, June 17, 2010

"We do not stop playing because we grow old; we grow old because we stop playing." Wisely spoken by my 88-year-old mother. Her philosophy on life includes the following tenants:

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Posted on Thursday, March 25, 2010

I recently responded to an internet posting that had 20 questions regarding spirituality. Marjolein asked that I share my thoughts with you too.

I think there is a great diversity to belief. As with all things one can learn so much from others. What I have noticed most in life is that your beliefs change continuously based on your environment and the experiences you live. Therefore there is not any one answer to spirituality that will be agreed upon by everyone. No matter who you are, where you are from, what you were taught, your experiences, your desires and your thoughts. These things all influence your judgment, as they should.

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Utilize the energy of the Moon to ease the burden of living

Posted on Friday, October 16, 2009

Kabbalah teaches that it is during times of waning Moons that you work on eliminating unwanted energy, during a New Moon you focus on drawing positive energy towards you that you can manifest while the Moon is Waxing.

It is in using the energy of the Moon that you are able to utilize one of the many universal laws to add ease and satisfaction to your life. Even the Witches of Salem believed that their spells were much more powerful when performed with "moon energy".

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Great Advice

Posted on Sunday, September 13, 2009

This is the most beautiful advice I have ever received in an email .....

An Angel says, 'Never borrow from the future. If you worry about what may happen tomorrow and it doesn't happen, you have worried in vain. Even if it does happen, you have to worry twice.'

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Why I Love Mom

Posted on Friday, May 1, 2009

Mom and Dad were watching TV when Mom said, "I'm tired, and it's getting late. I think I'll go to bed" .

She went to the kitchen to make sandwiches for the next day's lunches.

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Does a positive thought change the outcome of an event?

Posted on Monday, March 2, 2009

You may have read that my Tom has been diagnosed with Non Hodgkin's Lymphoma.

When I first heard the diagnosis I was incredulously shocked, in denial and full of disbelief.

How is it possible when he looks so well, that he can actually have cancer of his immune system? Wouldn't he be feeling sick or getting sick all the time?

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Posted on Sunday, February 1, 2009

The absurdity of life occurs to each and every one of us every day. Recently a friend passed along these remarkable little ditties to ponder and enjoy so I thought I would pass them along to all of you! read more

Nine of the most misunderstood words uttered by women to men....

Posted on Thursday, January 1, 2009

I promise this year to better communicate with Tom, Louis, my male business partners and all my male friends! Have a laugh as you remind yourself of how easily we can be misunderstood. Perhaps John Gray is right and we are from different planets.

From the mouths of men all over the planet here are 9 of the most misunderstood words uttered by women to men....

(1) "Fine":

This is the word a woman uses to end an argument when she thinks she is right and you are wrong and she doesn't want to discuss it any more. read more

Sometimes being a woman has to make you smile or you might just cry!

Posted on Wednesday, October 1, 2008

For all my bright, women friends who want to giggle at themselves, here are some very funny comments, that while they seem ridiculous, there is a speck of truth in each and every one! read more

get the most out of every day

Posted on Tuesday, April 1, 2008

Some tips for making the most out of life read more

In Giving to others lies the ultimate Healing

Posted on Tuesday, January 1, 2008

As you know, my lifetime commitment is about becoming a better person, a better mom and wife, a better teacher and healer and mostly a more giving human being.

In my personal quest to find perfect posture, peace of mind and vibrant health I try to study, learn and experience every modality that I think can make a difference.

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Learning to manifest your desires

Posted on Tuesday, January 1, 2008

It is the beginning of a New Year and I am excited.

Every New Year's Eve I spend an hour or so preparing for the next year. I write down, in my journal, all the things that I want to accomplish over the next twelve months. I make certain that I have written these "resolutions" in positive language and always in the present tense. I spend time imagining how I will feel after each accomplishment and reinforce its occurrence with the belief that it already "IS".

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Looking at Life through the Teachings of The Tao

Posted on Friday, October 26, 2007

I was at QVC recently while Wayne Dyer was speaking and as always I became mesmerized by his wonderfully delightful stories. I, of course, bought the book and CDs he was selling and have since listened to them and others many, many times. He mentioned that Lao Tzu, the original author of The Tao, said that you don�t own your children, they come through you and it is only for you to guide them into becoming the best they can be. My other favorite author Deepak Chopra wrote, "The job of a parent is to make your children understand and appreciate what makes them unique".

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Bach Flower Remedies

Posted on Monday, August 20, 2007

In 1930 Dr. Edward Bach believed that disease was caused by disharmony in one's state of mind. It seems that there really does exist a strong connection between what the mind thinks and how the body responds. Dr. Bach developed an entire homeopathic healing system, directed at the emotional outlook of a person, using flower essences as his remedies. A simple questionaire allows a person to determine which remedy to take in order to restore peace of mind and thus allow the body to heal. read more

I believe

Posted on Tuesday, May 22, 2007

I Believe...

That we don't have to change friends if we understand that friends change.

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Robby's Night by Mildred Hondorf

Posted on Saturday, April 21, 2007

I am a former elementary school music teacher from Des Moines, Iowa and for over 30 years

I have supplemented my income by teaching piano lessons.

Over the years I found that children have many differing skill levels but while I've never had the pleasure of having a prodigy, I have taught some talented students. It was however in teaching a student who I believed had no talent, that I learned my greatest lesson.

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Facts of Life

Posted on Saturday, April 21, 2007

I love the little reminders that help you to approach every day with an attitude of gratitude. Here are some to tape up where you can see them. read more

What Goes Around Comes Around

Posted on Monday, February 26, 2007

His name was Fleming and he was a poor Scottish farmer. One day, while trying to make a living for his family, he heard a cry for help coming from a nearby bog. He dropped his tools and ran to the bog.

There, mired to his waist in black muck was a terrified boy, screaming and struggling to free himself. Farmer Fleming saved the lad from what would have been a slow and terrifying death.

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Why Are We Here? What is Really Real?

Posted on Monday, February 26, 2007

One thing I know for sure is that I can only perceive my life based on my own experiences. If all that I know is based on what I believe about those experiences, how can I positively affect my future? read more

Gratitude is the Key to Happiness

Posted on Thursday, December 21, 2006

A 92-year-old man, petite, well-poised and proud, who is fully dressed each morning by eight o'clock, hair fashionably coifed and face cleanly shaved, moved to a nursing home today. A move that was precipitated by the death of his wife of 70 years. 

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Power of Love Faith and Hope

Posted on Saturday, October 28, 2006

Medical science may well be able to heal certain illnesses and prolong some life but it does not address the state of a person's mind. It is proven that our bodies literally get sick when fed a diet of negative words, toxic thoughts and nasty emotions.

We know that for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. Therefore thoughts and words of fear and criticism cause disease, while thoughts of joy and love create health.
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Truth or Dare, Power or Force

Posted on Wednesday, September 20, 2006

Kinesiology is a relatively new diagnostic science that has clinically proven that human beings are able to distinguish truth from falsehood, good from bad and positive from negative simply by measuring the reaction of a muscle.
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Reach Out And Tell Someone What They Mean To You

Posted on Wednesday, September 20, 2006

Because when you decide that it is the right time it might be too late. read more

A Thing to Remember

Posted on Thursday, August 31, 2006

The baggy yellow shirt had long sleeves, four extra large pockets, black trim and snaps up the front. It was faded from years of wear, but still in decent shape. I found it in 1973 when I was home from college on Christmas break, rummaging through bags of clothes Mom intended to give away.
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Friends, Simple or Real?

Posted on Friday, June 23, 2006

Real friendships are rare jewels to be protected, appreciated and polished to keep them gleaming. Simple friendships, which skim the surface and mean very little, abound...and then, there are real friendships...see if you agree with the following differences between the two. read more

Think Before You Criticize

Posted on Friday, June 23, 2006

A young lady named Sally relates an experience she had in a seminary class given by her teacher, Dr. Smith. She says Dr. Smith was known for his elaborate object lessons. read more

Audrey Hepburn's Beauty Tips

Posted on Friday, April 7, 2006

"...helping people to help themselves �giving them the aid to develop, thereby allowing them to become self-reliant and live with dignity." Audrey Hepburn

Audrey Hepburn has been my idol and mentor since I was a little girl and was allowed to stay up late on Friday evenings to watch a movie with my Mum, on our black and white TV. Her elegance, style and wordly compassion makes her one of the all time most amazing women. The following are some of the words she shared with the public during her years working with UNICEF.

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Always Keep Your Fork

Posted on Wednesday, March 8, 2006

There was a young woman who had been diagnosed with a terminal illness, and had been given three months to live. As she was getting her things in order, she contacted her pastor and had him come to her house to discuss some of her final wishes. read more

Isn't It Great To Be A Woman?

Posted on Wednesday, March 8, 2006

We are only as strong as the coffee we drink, the hairspray we use and the women friends we have. To all women on the planet. Here's to you!

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Nothing Tastes as Good as Thin Feels

Posted on Friday, January 20, 2006

There are times in the day when I feel as though I could enter into a complete feeding frenzy and throw all of my discipline and control right out the window. This usually occurs sometime around 3 o'clock in the afternoon. At this point, whatever I've eaten for lunch is beginning to fade, I'm starting to get worn down from the day, and I just want a "pick me up." read more


Posted on Monday, November 28, 2005

Mermaids. I am surrounded by them. Literally and spiritually. Mermaids represent many things that are important to women. read more

Can You Be You All the Time?

Posted on Monday, November 28, 2005

I love what I do. At age 40 I read Deepak Chopra's book in which he states that the greatest gift that a parent can give a child is to help them understand what makes them unique! Alas my parents had never aided me in that quest. read more

You Are Always Already There

Posted on Monday, October 17, 2005

A boat docked in a tiny Mexican village. An American tourist complimented the Mexican fisherman on the quality of his fish and asked how long it took him to catch them.

"Not very long," answered the Mexican.

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It's All in a Name

Posted on Monday, October 17, 2005

When I turned 18, I decided to take a trip to Holland to visit my grandparents. While preparing for the trip, I pulled out my passport, perplexed to see that the name my mother had called me since birth "Marjolein" was not my legal name. read more

Fat Thinkers vs. Thin Thinkers

Posted on Monday, October 17, 2005

Over the years, I have discovered that I have both "thin-thinking" and "fat-thinking" friends. Those who have "fat thoughts" are the ones that struggle constantly with their weight while those who have "thin thoughts" seem to eat whatever they crave without guilt. It struck me that it might be helpful to share with you some of those differences in the "fat/thin" thinking approach. The following is a short list of some of those differences. read more

Note to Self, Always Believe

Posted on Thursday, July 21, 2005

It was April 10th, 2005, my son Louis' fifth birthday party... read more

Feng Shui Help

Posted on Thursday, July 21, 2005

Dear Marjolein, When I read your Feng Shui article last month, I got panicked. Because I hate clutter but my family doesn't, and I'm worried that as much as I want to follow all your tips, I'm fighting an uphill battle. read more

A 4-leaf Clover

Posted on Wednesday, June 1, 2005

8 years ago, I was asked to appear on QVC for the first time and, with no experience in front of the camera, I arrived at the Westchester Studios full of fear and trepidation. read more

Forgiveness, the key to Happiness and Success and Peace of Mind

Posted on Sunday, May 1, 2005

We have spoken about recognizing our own self-limiting thoughts and replacing them with positive and affirmative ones. We have also discussed how important it is to be grateful and to recognize what is wonderful about our lives instead of focusing on our grievances and problems. Everything that we experience may be perceived as a miracle if we choose to see it that way. read more

Create your life; fill it with the reality of all your dreams

Posted on Friday, April 1, 2005

It is my belief that your thoughts are the cause of your life. In other words, life is whatever you believe will manifest. If you remove the negative beliefs from your mind and replace them with positive intention you can bring into your life anything you desire. read more

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